What are the feelings of a child who dies loved one? Grieving children as well as adults? And why is it important to give you the opportunity to odžít life after his loss? Answers to these and other questions portal offers Chances For Children, senior counselor for families in problematic situations.
The loss of a loved one, or even parents is undoubtedly one of the most stressful situations that can befall a child. For his next life itself is essential to deal with this painful loss can cope. Family therapist Mgr. Catherine gives KRTIČKOVÁ in an article entitled "O children, death, and mourning," readers insight into the stories of the children and offers opportunities to better understand them and try them in the loss of life in a meaningful way to help. You will learn how children can experience the death of a loved one, which is with them convenient to talk about death and where to seek help and support in the event of a crisis.
"The theme of death in our society is still somewhat taboo, as evidenced by the conclusions of the recently implemented survey, while the case of children is very important that they were being treated was enough time and space with the loss of a loved one cope. Raw emotions associated with the death of a loved one is because they can unexpectedly occur at any time later in life and lead to serious problems, as in our article can be read also, "added Hana topic Hoffmann, Project Manager portal Chances children.
Few of the adult suspects that the period of mourning in children can take several years, and do so covertly, without any external symptoms. On his surroundings then the child may be seen that the death of a loved one has taken quite calmly. As with adults and children go through different phases of grieving, their speeches, however, differ in many ways. It often emerges in them a sense of guilt for the death of a loved one, tend to have the tendency to self-punishment, to self-harm. Can they be poor achievements at school, záškolačení, may exhibit different Psychosomatics, are no exception signs of aggression.
Sometimes a child to an adult act calmly, as if "he did not get it." And we can feel that grieve because crying. Older children then tries to suppress crying because they do not want to worry about their surroundings. Sometimes, on the contrary, the child can fall prey to bouts of crying and despair, there are sleep disorders, minor children may be temporarily wetting.
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Give the child time and space odžít the loss of life. Keep in mind that grieving child is an individual, it may take some time to have a different intensity.
Beware of exaggerated demands, expectations and requiring new patterns of behavior. Expected that children "do not worry", ie it will great to learn that they will be at home to help, do not get angry, etc. The children but can not put automatic requests like "you have to help "," Do not be angry, "" you must learn "in connection with the fact that the father or mother died.
In any case, do not underestimate the consideration of the child's death. Children's suicide attempts are unfortunately not an isolated phenomenon, moreover, in the role of a surviving child can solve the crisis in a manner "go for the one who is waiting for me and who loves me." From our adult perspective, we are unable to estimate the intensity of a stimulus trigger, which can look incredibly banal.
Can not go wrong if you decide to seek professional help - whether child or counseling psychologist or family therapist.
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